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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I recently went through a similar conversation.  I really wanted something that DH thought was too expensive (or rather, he didn’t see the need for the expense).  The object I wanted was in my area of interest and I knew it was priced well and fairly unique.  There have been several times when DH Aja’s wanted to get something that I don’t see the need for at all (like a Peloton!) and don’t feel comfortable with the money.  But, because it is important to him, and I want to support him, I went along with it.

So as we were arguing about this object, I simply reminded him of all those things and said I’m going to get “x”.  It means a lot to me, and it would mean even more if you would support me in this matter.  Once it sunk in that I wasn’t asking permission as much as letting him know it was happening and it would mean a lot to have him on board as I have been in the past, he said fine.  He still grumbles about it, but sees my point.  If your DH had approached it like that then I think it would have been much better.

Going forward this should be your MO-you shouldn’t need to ask your husband’s permission on things that are very important to you (barring international travel-that’s a whole different deal!), but you would like his support.  Then get it even if he doesn’t give it to you (obviously this shouldnonly be for VERY important things, not trivial items).  And yes, separate accounts wth some spending money can’t hirt either![/quote]

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