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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would take pictures and email the Principal and the Principal Deputy. Your email should include your conversation with the Principal Deputy and what the Principal Deputy did. Be as specific as you can. Make sure you ask for a receipt that the email had been received and opened. I would also ask for the Principal Deputy to confirm what you said in the email was factual.

Essentially, create the paper train.

Document everything. If your child reports another confrontation with the other kid, make sure that you email the Teacher, Principal Deputy and Principal.

I would talk to your child and ask if there is another part of the story he has not told you. Has he called kid A names or retaliated in any way? Try and see if you can understand what the interactions before the bullying started. Because the school is going to talk to Kid A and his parents and they are going to tell their side. I am not saying that anything that your child did is deserving of being bullied or physically hurt but that there are two sides to the story and something might have happened that your kid has not told you about. You don't want to be surprised by what the other family says only to find out that your child confirms what Kid A said.

I would hope that Kid A is moved to a different class and is told not to interact with your child. I would make sure that you make it clear that you do not want the two of them in the same classroom next year or any following years.

But never let a conversation on this topic go undocumented. Follow up with an email saying "I wanted to make sure that I have a clear recollection of our conversation in front of the school on 27 Feb 2019...."[/quote]
Thanks, the teacher was trying to give the excuse that my kid also play with kid A and that he is part of it and I had to stop the teacher right there. I told the teacher my kid is 8 and he wants to be accepted and liked and if he is playing with kid A, that doesn't mean that it's ok to get physically hurt, the teacher was not trying to say that, but was trying to blame both sides. It could be that my kid said annoying things too, But I know for sure he didn't lay a hand on kid A or any other kid in the class and that what I'm sticking with. My son told me that kid A had been pushing other kids, too, so this is what they are trying to figure out now. But this is a good point, I will make sure to get as much information as possible from my kid today. [/quote]

I 100% agree that there is no reason for kids to be physically hurt. I don't think that your kid has hurt Kid A, otherwise the Teacher could have pointed to bruises and the like. But it is likely that Kids A family will not be happy when the school contacts them, and the school has to contact them, and will look for some way to blame your kid. In some ways it easier for the school if there is shared blame.

So talk to your child and tell him that he needs to be honest with you.

Tell him that he is not going to get in trouble for anything he tells you during this conversation but that the school is going to be talking to the other kid and get his side of things so you need to know everything that has happened between them. I would also emphasize that he well get into trouble later if the other boy says something and it is true and your son didn't tell you about it.

Then let him tell you what he tells you. If he has called the other boys name or done something he shouldn't have, don't punish him but remind him that you don't use mean words or however you talk to an 8 year old about these things. Reinforce that even if he did call Kid A a name or something negative had happened, that did not give Kid A the right to hurt him and that physical violence is wrong. Let him know that you are working with the school about this and that you believe him and are advocating for him. [/quote]

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