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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks.  I meant the relationship day-to-day.  I'm not going to stomp around mad and act cold.  We're going to have date nights.  I've found it all too easy to slip back into normal happy home life even though I just found out a day or two ago about this crap.  I'm not sure if that is healthy forgiveness, or being a sucker.

Like, let's say he had set the house on fire by doing something stupid.  He's sorry, and I love him, but also what the hell is wrong with him?  I don't know how to act.
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I think it’s fine to be all over the place right now. I’m in a sort of similar situation, but at work: I work very closely with another person at work (principal/asst principal) at a school. Asst principal lied and broke trust recently. And we still have to work together. I’m really pissed, but I can’t stay in that place everyday. It’s exhausting. So I just take it day by day. Some days I’m really friendly and relaxed, and other days I’m feeling like I need to protect myself and am not as engaged.
OP, give yourself permission to enjoy time with your spouse and family. It doesn’t mean you’re a sucker. And if you need to take some space for yourself or you find yourself feeling resentful, take that space. “I’m going out for coffee. You’ve got dinner with the kids. See you in a bit.”

Hang in there. [/quote]

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