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[quote=Anonymous]So I'm wading into this topic with hesitancy as people seem to have some intense opinions. But I'm curious re: DCUM's take.

My partner and I are discussing marriage. It'll be my first; his second. We both have children; he has 2 teen DD's from his first marriage. I was a single mom by choice and have 1 toddler DD.

We're both a bit older, so the idea of him "surprising" me with a ring and a proposal feels antiquated and odd. Marriage with a blended family is a huge decision and requires thought and discussion. I also feel that it's most ethical if we split the cost of my ring. I'd like to gift it to my DD eventually, and because we both have daughters, it seems fair of me to contribute and help offset the cost, as he and I are both the primary breadwinners for our respective families.

I started looking at rings and was pretty shocked at the cost of diamonds. Not even sure that's the route I want to go, but if so, I'd feel even more strongly about this being a shared expense. We're both mid-high earners and financially conservative/savers.

Maybe this is all un-romantic, but it makes sense to me. Thoughts?

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