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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doesn’t sound like anything is wrong.
You friended him.  So he messaged you, no surprise there.
You thought it would be ok to talk to him, and it was heavier than you expected.  So you told him you needed to stop talking.  You’re in a committed relationship.  You last dated him at age 20.  You’re going to not talk to him for a while, get over the idea of him at 20, and maybe or maybe not talk to him gain.

Sounds pretty fine[/quote]

Ok cool  thanks. I thought I was being overly dramatic by saying I could not talk to him, but it was more overwhelming than I thought it would be.[/quote]

I’d just keep telling yourself: you’re not into him, you’re into the IDEA of him.  You’ve thought about what it would be like to be with him during many past breakups and hard times, and have thought about him for decades.  The idea of him is in your head.  The person he actually is is probably quite different.

Hold on to that idea of him and cherish it.  And never connect it to the actual older guy who has lived a separate life from you for years who is a very different person than the guy in your head.[/quote]

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