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[quote=Anonymous]Posting here because I know I’m the general discussions forum I’d have my ass handed to me.

Honestly, how much does your nanny do?

I’m very aware that my nanny acts as a third parent.  She’s heavily involved and works about 55-60 hours a week and we would not function without her.

She’s educated, intelligent, kind, patient and diligent.  We pay her very well and she’s worth every penny.

I see a lot of parents minimize what their nannies do as a way to shield off parent shaming.  If I were the nanny, I’d be angry if my employers were lessening my impact  to coaxed their own egos.

So I’m honest.  DH and I both have highly demanding careers that we love and cherish.  Our nanny handles 100% of everything child related so when we are off the clock we only worry about spending quality time with our children.  It works.  Just as it works when one parent stays home.

Of course, I’m the one who gets the brunt of the blame.  My husband works longer hours but I get higher pay.  He’s providing and working hard, I’m letting someone else raise my children.  Misogyny at its finest.

What duties does your nanny have that you hide from your friends?  Family?  Coworkers?

My nanny sets up my children’s doctors appointments. She helps my children decide what activities they want to do and signs them up.  She makes major decisions for them, and we trust her to do so.  She found an orthodontist for our daughter.  She picks out the best summer camp.  She is the third parent and picks up the slack where DH and I fail and I won’t discredit her by acting as she doesn’t do what she does.

Why do you? [/quote]

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