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[quote=Anonymous]I had really nice kind patents and lots of siblings.

My best friend from elementary had parents who went through a very ugly divorce in 4th and 5th.  We always had so much fun together, but she went from being the fun girl to a very mean girl during that time. Looking back, I am pretty confident there was abuse going on, and most likely substance abuse (mom) and infidelity (dad).

We did everything together before that, so when she turned into a mean girl I still did everything with her. I don't recall bullying people myself, but I was always her sidekick, giving her power and probably making it harder for her targets as I was always the friendly kind girl before this phase.  When I did things with other kids, including her victims, I was always nice and we always had fun, so it must have been confusing to those girls when we got back to school and I was side by side with the mean girl.

When she switched girls, I was back to getting along with everyone.  Unfortunately, her biggest target switched schools too. I think she would have really liked the school after mean girl left. It was just so different in 6th through 8th grade.

Family dynamics can definitely create a bully, but all bullies do not necessarily have bad families or terrible parents.  I know my parents, especially my mom, were exceptionally kind to everyone and were very good parents.  Kids reach an age (around middle school) when peer influence carries far more weight than anything their parents do or say.
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