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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t tell him, but I most certainly show him. I’m super friendly to other men in front of him, and cold as ice to him. For example- friendly to guy walking his dog by the house, friendly to checkout guy at Whole Foods, chit chat with another dad at soccer practice, etc. I don’t let DH touch me and I don’t answer his questions. I can’t help it it’s just what I do. How do I change? I don’t want to be a passive aggressive jerk but sometimes he [b]hurts my feelings so much I can’t speak[/b]. I can only do mean things to him such as decline to communicate or be warm. Why, what is wrong with me???

Help me not sabotage my new marriage. [/quote]

If this is the case, and you don't think you're being overly sensitive, then counseling might be in order.

Otherwise, are you very sensitive and conflict avoidant in general, or just with DH? Would you rather die than confront someone over what they said or did? Did you grow up in a home where you weren't allowed to express your feelings, or when doing so you were belittled or harshly punished? Does DH not fight "fair"?

Regardless, you need to learn how to express your bad feelings productively. Otherwise, yeah, this is a recipe for a disastrous marriage. Going silent is one thing, but being retaliatory by feigning interest in other men is only going to inflame things.[/quote]

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