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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have three, had them in 4.5 years (two years apart, then 2.5 years apart).  You'd have to outsource a lot of childcare if your husband travels a lot.  We both work and are hands on, but that's only because we both have a lot of flexibility and very little travel.  I really love having three, but that's in large part because of the set up we have.  It sounds much tougher with a frequently traveling spouse and the other working FT, too.

Kids do still need you as they get older, but in different ways.  I don't agree for a second that they need you more, but they do need you differently.  Less poop, more listening and attending.[/quote]

Do you feel like you need 2 set of adult hands on deck in morning and evenings?  Like if DH is out of town it'd be miserable to do evening routine myself without an au pair or someone else really taking on one of the kids?  I feel like the hours I get with my kids during the week is enough hours (generally 6am-730 in the morning and 5:30-7:30 in the evening when I can be really engaged with them) but don't have a good concept of when they are say 2/3/5 if I'd be able to enjoy that time like I have so far or whether it'll be hell trying to wrangle 3 kids with that age spread. [/quote]

I don't feel like we need two adults every 365 days/year, but if my DH traveled frequently, it would be very hard.  The few times he does travel, I have things planned almost to the minute and it is NOT easy.  I don't enjoy that time with the kids, I'm focused instead on managing them and getting things done.  At 2/3/5, it's still kind of a nightmare.  We are at 3/5/7, and it's doable mostly because the oldest basically puts herself to bed with a book.  But DH and I absolutely do bedtimes together.  Mornings I do more, but I am still more relaxed than I would be if he's not here.

Bottom line: assuming kids within the normal range of kid difficulty (which mine are--none super easy but none with significant SN either), managing three solo is truly management, it's not mindfully engaging with them.  Think Whac-A-Mole.[/quote]

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