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[quote=Anonymous]IT's very kid-dependent.  I know of an August boy who was held back, and therefore he was older than most... he shouldn't have been held back b/c he used his age to sort of dominate others.

I know of an August boy (and a late Sept. boy) who was not held back -- they are big for their age and they fully fit into their grade (even though they are in fact younger than most).

My kid is an end-of-July bday.  His preschool teacher said he should not be held back.  We sent him on time.  I can see the advantages of holding him back socially.  He is in the AAP program in FCPS (so, he's a smart kid), but when it comes to time management, social understanding, self-control, and especially ENGLISH class (the writing requirements and just understanding the subtext of required literature), he would have been better off being held back.  Also, rec soccer was not good for him (even though he liked it) b/c he didn't have the coordination and b/c he is ultra small (even for his July bday peers), it is dangerous for him to play with kids who are 2+ year older and 50-75lbs bigger.

It is very hard to know what to do when your kid is "ahead" academically, but behind on another category (i.e. physical or social).  My son was bored out of his mind in Kinder/1st and 2nd.  So holding him back would have made that worse.  He wasn't so bored when he got to AAP (his teachers in 1st and 2nd were actually surprised that he scored as well as he did on the screening tests b/c they saw him as an immature goof-off who couldn't get his work done.)

So, in truth... if I did have it to do over again, I probably would hold him back.

My son's friend (back in preschool) was a June bday and the preschool teachers told his mom to hold him back.  They did, and I think they are happy with the outcome.

I know of another kid (girl) who is an early Sept. bday and she was held back -- she is rocking it and I do think it is in part b/c she is older and more mature.

My first suggestion would be to LISTEN CLOSELY to what your child's preschool teacher says.  They see lots of kids and can tell who doesn't quite fit in with the crowd and who seems "young."  Then, I would suggest you consider your child's size and overall self-care and self-control ability.   If you think your child seems behind, then hold him back.  If your are considering it "just b/c" of the bday, that is not a great reason.

There is no "perfect" answer if your kid is mixed -- ahead in some areas, and not in others.  [/quote]

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