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[quote=Anonymous]I feel that my DH and I are not on the same page about things that I wish was a priority for both of us. I find that I am unable to live and do things I want because my DH is always so discouraging and does so by citing our financial limitations. I think with creativity and prioritizing we can live frugally hit also do things that make me happy. He thinks since we aren’t rich we should essentially live like hermits.

- id like to prioritize health. Since we aren’t rich I choose to use my paychecks to buy organic produce and meats with a wide variety of fresh greens and fruit. I choose cheaper options such as canned salmon and frozen vegetables to save on cost. DH says this is luxurious and that we should instead “eat plainly” meaning have a plate or rice with grilled chicken or pork for dinner with a bag of iceberg lettuce. 
I obviously disagree so our compromise is that he buys his pork and rice and I buy veggies and fish.

- I want to pursue higher education as I feel doing so will bring me personal fulfillment and may make me more competitive on the job market. It’s been one of my forever goals. DH however has always shot it down. He says further education wouldn’t help with my job prospects and I’d pnly wind up with 200k in student debt which would crush us. I understand his point but...I’m happy to pay them off as I continue working throughout my life. He worries once children come and since I already have a low paid job, I’ll leave the job market and he’ll end up with loans he won’t be able to cover on his salary.

- I’d like to live in a more “grown up space.” We currently live like college kids with random furniture that doesn’t go together or old hand me downs. The rest of our place is empty with things lining corners of walls as they have no place else to go. I hate it it’s depressing. He doesn’t bat and eyelash. I am too embarrassed to invite anyone over as a 31 year old woman my living arrangememt is embarrassing.  He thinks I want to “waste our money on luxuries” when I bring up wanting to buy art for our bare walls or buy a mirror which we don’t have in our apt! It’s become so painful I don’t even bring it up and as such I live in a house that’s not really mine.

- I’d like for us to travel more since we don’t have kids. He says a yearly trip to the beach is sufficient. I scoff and say we are you g and healthy we should be exploring the world.He says we aren’t rich kids so we shouldn’t act like we are. I feel bitter and jealous of our friends who take 3-4 trips a year and make less money than us!

Financials- HHI 100k-150k (depending on how much I bring in with my unstable contracting gigs)
Rent: $1650
Car: $265
Insurance:$75
DH loans: $900
Groceries: $400

Are my requests unreasonable?[/quote]

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