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[quote=Anonymous]I know I'll be judged but whatever. I'm married with a young DS and I've become friends with a guy that I work with, also married with grown kids. Nothing has happened between us however we've been progressively spending more and more time together at work and are always IMing back and forth. Our conversations are mostly about every day stuff but have occasionally ventured into light flirtation, nothing sexual however. But I can feel a growing attraction between us and I feel like its only a matter of time before things cross over into affair territory. Its probably already an emotional affair at this point or bordering on it.

My marriage has been rocky for the past year or so not to mention DH and I rarely have sex so I know I'm really vulnerable right now. DH and I have been trying to work on our marriage however I am not certain if we are going to make in the long run. I haven't thrown in the towel yet but the lack of sex is definitely an issue for me so I'm sure that's a factor why I'm being drawn to someone else. The problem is I really like this guy as a person, its not just a purely physical thing. And to be honest, I probably would never have went for him when I was single. But he's so nice to me and such a gentle soul, I guess it just feels good.

Adding another layer of complication, so I'm a contractor at our company and he's been trying to help me get hired full time (he's a manager). He has a opening on his team coming up soon and has said he would hire me for it. So if that happens, then he'd be my manager and we'd probably occasionally have to travel together for work.

So on the one hand, I can't exactly "end" things because nothings happened and we've never even had a discussion about what's happening between us but OTOH, us being friends will benefit me in possibly getting this job. But then if I am hired and join his team, then we will be spending even more time together making an affair all the more likely.

I know I'm a mess. What should I do? [/quote]

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