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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whatever you do, NEVER tell your kid you might not have had him/her, if you had known how difficult it is.

My mom has repeatedly told me, "I love you and your sister so much, but if I had known how emotionally draining raising children is, I don't know if I would have done it."

Mind you, my sister and I were relatively easy kids--we did well in school, neither of us has special needs of any kind, we didn't do drugs/smoke/have sex or even skip class--and we're both married to nice guys and have professional careers.

I'm sure you can imagine the number that has done to me, so please--just don't share your thoughts with your kid. [/quote]

I think it’s sad that you can’t appreciate your mother’s honesty and insight.  I was a surprise pregnancy for my parents and there is no way in hell they would have chosen to have me, but I know they love me.  I’m not hung up about the fact that they would have made a different choice,  if they’d had a choice.  It’s not a reflection on me—it’s just a reflection of the fact that raising kids is damn hard and not something you should really do unless you’re well set up for it.  Really, I think more people should be more honest about this.  Your mother was trying to make sure your eyes were open and tell you it’s okah to choose not to go down that road.

My MIL who is an awful person and was an awful mother, gushes no end about how being a mother is the most important thing and of course it’s the best thing she’s done.  She has no insight or self-awareness at all.  [/quote]

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