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[quote=Anonymous]At 10 it was easy. No electronics Sunday 3 PM to Friday 3 PM.

Now that they are teens, more is up to them.

I have found that we can't keep to clock-work schedules for a variety of reasons: my attention, daily differences in amount of homework, daily differences in after school activity schedules, etc.

So for us the key has been to set priorities and consequences for getting the priorities wrong.

1. Keeping external schedules (on time to school and activities).
2. Keeping self-care routines (showers, teeth, chores, adequate food and sleep).
3. Homework.
4. practice instrument.
5. exercise (for the one who has fewer athletic endeavors)
6. having a social life
7. having a hobby
8. having fun

We try to fit some of that in every day, and recognize that circumstance will dictate shifting priorities (e.g. finals week, Spring Break, big project due), but no area should be neglected.

In real life what that looks like is parents prompting reminders when 1-5 are getting off track, usually due to over-prioritizing 6-8. Consequences are usually natural consequences, unless that proves to be ineffective, then the consequence is increased parental supervision in the area of lapse -- which they hate, so it is usually effective -- or complete, whole house internet shutdown if things get really bad (happened once).
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