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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP-are you doing a "fost=adopt" situation? what county are you in? do you mind me asking if your foster child is an infant or toddler? Does the county pay for the adoption or do you? Are you able to specify the age of the child when you become a foster parent hoping to adopt? We have lots of questions and will likely pursue a domestic adoption. DH and I have 2 young biological children and would like to adopt an infant in the next few years. Would love to hear about your experience as a foster parent.[/quote]

You can specify ages.  But they are not an adoption agency, so if you want an infant you may have to wait a while or not get one placed with you at all.  I was open to older children who would "fit" with my biological child as a sibling, but my foster child was an infant when he was placed with us, just luck of the draw.  And as things turned out, that was a wonderful experience for my DC.  I know several other foster parents who also had infants placed with them whom they ended up adopting.  The hard part is that you don't know for sure if the child really will become available to adopt -- the county exhausts all efforts to reunite them with their family first -- so you have to be willing to give without knowing you'll get a return other than karma.  The adoption process can take up to a year and a half.  I had mixed motivations -- i wanted to give but also wanted more children -- so it's a bit precarious, but I feel I am being forced to be a better person than I signed on to be.

Getting licensed is a long process.  There is a training of several weeks and they interview all of your references in person, inspect your house, etc.  Call the foster care office in your county and get details.[/quote]

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