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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're in the be content with an only child group.  I got pregnant on the first try with my son, and had a super easy pregnancy and delivery.  Started TTC #2 when he was 10 months old.  He is now 6 and I've never been pregnant again.  Was told I have unexplained secondary infertility.  IUIs, IVFs, and surgery all failed.  All tests normal for me and my hubs.  I am nowhere near menopause and have textbook perfect cycles.  I eat mainly organic, exercise, and live a clean and healthy lifestyle.

We are still TTC but on our own.  However I have zero hope that I will ever be pregnant again at this point.  It has been an extremely frustrating journey, but we have decided not to pursue any more infertility treatments, donor egg, or adoption.  I am trying to focus on all the benefits of being OAD.  With my son being 6 already, I am starting to feel too old to be pregnant again.

One of the many benefits of being OAD is that it really lets all 3 of us live our best lives.  My son can do tons of activities, my husband can really focus at work and do lots of extra trainings and pursue his hobbies, and I have gone back to work full-time at a career that I love.  We do a lot of traveling and all 3 of us are pursuing our hobbies and interests outside of school/work.  I am well-rested all the time, and have time to focus on exercise, eating healthy, and self care.  I don't think I'd be able to do any of these things if I had more than one child, so instead of being down in the dumps all the time about it, I'm trying to focus on all the benefits.  [/quote]

That is a great attitude and I admire you for that perspective. How do you manage feelings (if any) of jealousy or bitterness toward those who have more than one?[/quote]

I wasn't a content with one person, but through the process of infertility, most of us encounter those who get pregnant or have success with ART easily.  I found those feelings of jealousy were tied entirely to my unhappiness with my circumstances and not really as much about the other people.  If you accept having one and see the benefits and joy in that, those feelings diminish (along with your unhappiness with your circumstances).  Essentially, you get to put it in the past and move on.  I did DE and am really happy with it - no jealousy or bitterness at those who didn't have to take the long journey I did.  I'm mid-pregnancy, so it's all recent enough that when I think about the many disappointments I still feel connected to that sadness, but it's nothing like being there.

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