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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - I really appreciate everyone's honest replies.  I really did want completely honest opinions.  In the spirit of further frankness...let me ask more on a touchy issue.  One poster said to adopt because you want more children, not for charity (or something like that).  While I understand the reason for that, I also know (I work in a social services field) that adoptive parents are "needed" (particularly for older kids).  I would think that to adopt a child because you think it is helpful, might be a valuable motivation, particulalry if and when things become difficult.  In other words, I worry that if the primary motivation for adopting is rooted in MY needs (i.e., to have more children), then I would likely be more quickly disappointed (because my needs weren't being met) when things become difficult.  Is being partly motivated by the desire to help a child in need a bad thing?

Again, I really do want honest opinions because I want to assess my own motivations in making this decision.  If my motives are misplaced, I don't want to adopt (I don't want my problem to become a problem for the child).  My motives right now are to have a bigger family, but also to be helpful to a child in need.  (We are capable of having more biological children, but the reason to adopt rather than have more biological children would be rooted in a sense of charity.)

Sorry for rambling....I hope that makes sense.  We do want a larger family and, if adoption seems like the wrong thing to do (because of our motivations or any other reason), than we would likely just get preganant again.[/quote]

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