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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I have the typical dynamic of him being blind to a lot of the domestic work and periodically this explodes and we need to reset.  So many people say the best way to do this is to leave for a few days so the less engaged partner has to do it all and appreciate the labor that goes into keeping a household running smoothly / the exhaustion of having to start childcare and dinner prep the minute you walk in the door from work etc.

The problem is that whenever I attempt to do this (need to travel for a couple days for work, go visit a friend for a weekend) DH will call his parents who will fly in no matter how last minute and literally do everything for him so he has no responsibility (beyond work if it's during the week) at all.

There's no way to ask my ILs to not do this is there?  I'm not looking to "punish" DH or prevent him from having breaks, more just want him to occasionally experience the work of fully managing the home front so when we need to renegotiate he goes into it appreciating what work is actually on the table.
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