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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks for posting this OP.

I have limited experience with adoption but I just wanted to pass along the experience of my cousin.
She has one biological son and when he was around 9yo adopted a 10 year old girl form Russia. In short the two children didn't get along. As I was told, he wanted to be the "big brother"' and show her the ropes in the US and she, being older, was very annoyed by this. In the end, the girl wanted to go back to Russia and live with her ailing Grandmother. It was a difficult experience for everyone involved.

I think it would be hard enough to adopt an older child, given the emotional baggage they no doubt carry with them, however I think it would be VERY difficult to adopt  a child older then your biological children. It just disrupts the sibling dynamics IMO. 
I too have considered international adoption as I want more children and am very open to the idea of my family being multi-racial. However if my husband and I do decide to add to our family by way of adoption(whether it be international or not) I know we'll adopt a child younger than our biological child/ren. I think it would be easier for my child to welcome a "little" sibling, and they could be excited about helping take care of them, even if the newest family member was a toddler or older.
And I too would like to thank 16:52 for such a great, informative post. Those of us considering adoption really do have so much to consider. I wonder if you, 16:52, might know of some books out there that you rec regarding the issues?[/quote]

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