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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You and your brother should do all you can to get your siblings an education.  That's the best way to help your parents.  Then you have can have four well employed siblings helping your parents as they age, instead of just two.

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Your family has already come out of rural Indian poverty thanks to them.  It is not easy but you need to bring up rest of the family.  He went into debt giving you all an education and that is not a waste of money. This is a good debt and now you are in a position to help to pay off this debt.

However, take some lessons from your dad's situation.  Do not have more than 1 or 2 offsprings. Live way below your means and save some money for your kids to go to state schools.  [/quote]

Also, for those of you who may not be aware, there are a lot of cultural limitations/expectations in play here.

It's highly likely OP & his brother wouldn't be where he is today if his parents hadn't paid for their education.   It's not like his parents spent it on lavish vacations for the family when he was growing up.

Also, he benefited from a culture that tends to support sons, particularly older sons, to the detriment of daughters.  Traditionally, like seriously old school traditionally, this means that the eldest brother is responsible for the well being of his parents when they are older as well as any unmarried sisters.   That's the only way this resource distribution is even remotely fair.

Finally, his father, as a government employee, may have had  mandatory retirement at 60.

My father's parents had passed away before and shortly after he came to the US to study (decades ago).  He received help from some Indians who had already immigrated to the US, and then when my father was able to, he paid it forward and supported his younger brothers in their education and coming here to the US.

Provided OP isn't going into debt, OP should help his parents and siblings, and hopefully OP's spouse will understand that.  [/quote]

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