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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of the techniques for supporting a person with anxiety are counterintuitive (at least to me). Learning techniques to support your DH may also help you take some of your burden off of yourself (it's okay to shut down rumination, it's often better for the anxious person if you don't reassure them-for example).[/quote]

This PP is exact right. My DS has anxiety and I had to learn some techniques. Most I got from reading his CBT book. A couple that might help give you some space: let him have a time to talk about his worries, but it isn’t all the time. Maybe he gets 20 minutes after dinner to indulge his worries. So if he comes through the door talking about x, you give him a kiss and say “save it for tonight, okay? How to you like Larla’s drawing?” (He has to be onboard, of course, but his therapist should think this is a good idea.) Second, don’t reassure him or tell him what he fears won’t happen. Instead, ask him “and then what.” Say he is anxious about looking foolish during a presentation at work. You can ask him “okay, so what if you did mess up and people laugh. What would happen?” Helping anxious people to see they have the tools to survive the things they fear can help them stop ruminating. Good luck![/quote]

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