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[quote=Anonymous]Does anyone have a spouse who, when there is a crisis (large - major health issue such as cancer, or small, or in between - major house damage that requires immediate work ie: water) resorts to making the problem much, much worse (drama)?  DH's family works this way, and I feel like he is trying to impose their ways on our family.  It is really exhausting. Instead of "snapping into action" (or even not, that would be fine) - DH makes matters worse, one way or another.  ex 1:  if there is water damage in the basement stairwell, and the water line is above the sealed door, he will open the door and let the water literally flood in (there was so much water, it came flooding down the stairwell to the door, and we watched it pool and accumulate and rise at the door, so it was very obvious not to open the door)  ex 2: I literally had cancer (now supposedly entirely removed, thankfully, but it was a scary number of weeks for me, as I have never had cancer before)  and DH "throws his back out" and goes on about his back (I remained silent about my cancer, because I knew it would only trigger him).

Frankly, these "vents" (or whatever you want to call them) seem to just numb me, so I think my sense of perception and right and wrong, in this regard is not what it used to be.  I feel like I am desensitized.  Is this normal? Do you have a DH that is so "out of touch"?  If so, how do you deal with it? This week we have no hot water.  He refuses to buy a hot water tank.  I am going to go around him, as usual, and hire someone to help us out.  But do normal men handle things by fighting EVERYTHING? [/quote]

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