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[quote=Anonymous]DH let me know he’s surprising me with a very sweet and generous (non-sexual) “experience” gift that I am not at all interested in.  We talked about it previously; he suggested it and I said clearly that it is not something I want.  I told him what I want instead.  He either didn’t hear that or didn’t believe that, and now has involved friends and family to pull it off.  He is an extrovert and I am an introvert, and I think he sometimes has a hard time seeing my perspective or believing I’d rather do something solitary.  He’s been putting a lot of effort into this gift and I truly do appreciate that, but I wish he hadn’t done it. I know he was disappointed in my reaction when he told me.  I’m disappointed too, and I feel terrible that I’m not excited about it. He’s doing the thing he wants for me, not the thing I want. We’re working with limited time and funds so it’s an either/or situation. I’m not sure what to do. It’s not too late to back out, but he will be hurt and embarrassed if I decline and it would be awkward for the others involved.  So that isn’t really an option. I’m trying to focus on appreciating the gesture, but it really feels like another responsibility now, and I’m not very good at feigning excitement.  I really don’t want to do this, but backing out would be worse. Any ideas on how to change my mindset on this?  I think it’s a bad idea to mention to DH that I wish he hadn’t done it. How do I act happy about it? [/quote]

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