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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently went back to Ohio and found out my brother is on and off heroin.  We went to dinner with my 1 year old and every other word was wtf. I asked him to stop but he did not take that well. He was obnoxious at dinner. It was awful. What would you do in the future? Should I have my dad visit me? I live in coastal Florida so it wouldn't be a big deal for my parents to visit us. We could give them skymiles/ gift him a flight. My dad doesn't have a lot of savings so I would feel better paying for his flight. He also loves the beach. [/quote]

Definitely go with your gut here, OP, and start setting aside a flight fund so you can fly dad to see you. Have dad to see you more often because he may find it stressful living near your brother.

If dad questions why you want to give him trips, you need to be ready with an answer; if you haven't normally paid for dad to fly to you he might wonder why things have changed (even if he's also pleased at coming to see you). Is your dad/are other family members fully acknowledging that brother is a drug user, or do they make excuses for him or try to gloss over his behavior? I would not have this conversation over the phone or by e-mail while dad's still in Ohio, though; i'd wait and have it in person when he's with you in Florida.

Does your brother live with your dad, OP? If so--you absolutely must buy the tickets directly for dad and not send money, just in case brother gets his hands on the money. I'd want to script out way to approach dad, when he's visiting with you, about whether brother is doing things like borrowing (or stealing) money from dad for drugs (or getting money claiming it's for rent or whatever -- you know it'd be going on drugs).

If you feel your dad would defend your brother, deny there is drug use, etc. then maybe you need to put off that conversation for a while. But meanwhile, have dad to come see you for sure.[/quote]

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