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[quote=Anonymous]I'm going to go a different direction.  It can totally change.

I'm a late 30's guy that has had it both ways.  I'm currently a workaholic, and put in 70-80 hour weeks, pretty much every week.  I work from home.  Start emails at 7, a few breaks throughout the day for stuff like dinner and to see the kids, give them a bath, put them to bed, then generally back on emails and calls with Asia until somewhere between 10 and 2am.  Usually at least 4-8 hours on the weekend.

I wasn't always like this.  My last job paid nearly as well (same company, different department), but I literally worked 20-30 hour weeks.  It wasn't really necessary to do more than that (even though I was FT), and I had a super relaxed, non-motivated boss.  I did that job for 4 years.  Before that, I was probably more in the 50 hour / week range.

I'm a high performer, and adapt to my surroundings / do what I need to do to be successful.  My wife and I have had some conversations about my current role, and probably the one thing that would definitely change it is just getting a different job (either internally or externally).

There are all kinds of reasons people work those hours.  For validation, money, power, to cover up other professional shortcomings, to make up for perceived weaknesses like not being geographically flexible, etc.  For me, the last one is a big factor.  My wife loves the flexibility that comes from me working from home (I do almost all morning childcare, drop / off, and most of the evening), but I have to bring something to the table for my company to offset not being in the headquarters.  For me, that's the extra effort / availability.

If it really bothers you, you will need to both set boundaries, and probably see if you can get him to change jobs (even within his company, just to another department that may not be so overloaded).[/quote]

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