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[quote=Anonymous]Wanted to share what I have found helpful and say thank you. I was busy ruminating about the trolls on DCUM and how little empathy the occasional troll can have when really so many of you get it and have great ideas. Hope this helps others. These are the great ideas you have given me...

1.)[b] Focus on making sure your parents don't harm others (e.g. driving when no longer safe) and realize you may not be able to protect them from themselves.
[/b]I was exhausting myself fighting every battle that I though had to be fought. Getting them to stop driving was a nightmare, but I am convinced it may have saved a life-theirs or someone else's. That bad! Other battles had to be fought to protect others. I was then exhaustred trying to make sure they got enough help for themselves and trying to get them to face reality. I finally had to let go some. They did end up moving forward. It might not be enough for full safety, but now there are professionals telling them what needs to be done, not just me so I can back off.

2.)[b] Set boundaries with bad behavior.
[/b]Someone on here said a nursing home staff member advised them to stop visiting for a while after the mom behaved terribly. She did and mom actually behaved better the next time. Well I calmly made it clear I empathies, but cannot take the yelling and rude behavior and I stepped back some and visited less. It has helped some.[/quote]

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