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[quote=Anonymous]I make a perfectly good income at a reasonable hour job and I have no interest in being a SAHM.  DH and I could both have a job like mine and a nice life in the DC area - we couldn't have EVERYTHING we have today (mainly conveniences to make our life work given his long hours) but we could afford everything for the lifestyle I want and save for retirement etc.  I would happily make the trade tomorrow.

DH is in a very high travel / long hours job and makes way way more than I do.  He does a lot with the kids / house when he's home (and we outsource a lot of non-kid things) but whenever there is something that would cut into his work, he thinks its my responsibility by default.  His argument is he makes x% of our income and therefore we can't risk his job, my argument is that his career choice is his career choice, we don't need that income level, and it is entirely unacceptable to make my career impossible because I'm forced into the default parent role.

I'm just curious how others deal with this dynamic when there is income disparity but both individuals have real careers they value. [/quote]

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