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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did this- and married the guy. Now getting divorced. 
Looking back these would be my look fors. While at first it seemed like a ‘putting kids first’ type of thing- it wasn’t. It was about the parents wanting to dillued themselves that they were actually divorced. Divorce is inherently messy and disruptive to kids. The birdnesing was a way to make themselves feel better. It was also confusing to the kids. 
2Nd- it’s a dynamic where you will be sacrificing the growth of your new relationship to their old relationship. It sounds good- parents who get along well to bird nest- but it really means (in my experience) that [b]they’ll do a lot of strange stuff to keep up their own delusions, and you’ll go along for the ride[/b]. 
Lastly- these deals just end. Abruptly. In my case his ex wife met a guy and was re-married 8 weeks later. A whole lot of reality was forced on the kids in a matter of days.
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NP Thanks for sharing your experience.  I have not been in this situation, but this is how I always saw bird nesting.

As far as the bolded goes - what do you mean by that? what other weird stuff did they do? [/quote]

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