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[quote=Anonymous]So since my 15 month DD was born, my mom paused her life and moved in with us to help us watch DD. She is retired and lives about 7 hours away. She has been such a tremendous help. My MIL however, even though she is local probably sees the baby once or twice a month. My DD takes a very long time to warm up to people and still hasn't warm up to my MIL due to not seeing her very often.

Anyways, my mom now has to return home and we need to look for another childcare option. Since my MIL's work has been very slow, she's getting 3 days off a week. We asked if she'll be willing to watch DD for those three days for about 3 to 4 months until her work is busy again. At first, she agreed and we were so happy to find a temporary solution. However the very next day she changed her mind and told us she cannot watch her anymore because she wants to rest the 3 days and watching our toddler will be too tiring for her. I am very upset that we are now scrambling to find another option.

We tried daycare before but DD did not do well at all. She has really bad separation anxiety and just cried the whole time there. We had to pull her out and asked my mom to stay a little longer.  We also cannot afford a nanny. Knowing this and my MIL refusal to help is really upsetting me. I feel like she must not care about or love my DD enough. I know she doesnt owe me anything. But seeing how much my mom has helped us vs. Mil's unwillingness to help really make me see her in a different light and this will forever change my relationship with her. Do I have the right to be upset or should I just let it go? Thanks for listening to my rant.

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