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[quote=Anonymous]I don't know where to put this question, so I'm sticking it here because it has to do with my kids.

We moved out of state 3 years ago. Our former neighbor was lovely woman, around 60 years old, without kids. My children loved her and she loved them. When we moved, my kids were 20 months and 3 years old.

Now we have 3 kids, and my kids are 6 and 4. They don't remember her.

She still sends the kids each a bday present (including the new baby) and a big Xmas box. This is the sweetest thing, and she is lovely to do it. I worry that she feels obligated however, because sometimes, if I haven't heard from her, I'll shoot her an email just asking how's she's doing, and I"ll usually include some pics of the kids because she enjoys seeing them. I also send her a Xmas card.

I feel like if I stopped communicating with her (Because we never see her in person or talk on the phone) she will stop sending presents. But, I don't want to hurt her feelings and I think she enjoys our infrequent contact.

I just don't want her to feel obligated to send presents or have her think that I'm keeping up the communication solely for the gifts she sends.

What would you do? I'm sure I'm overthinking this. [/quote]

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