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[quote=Anonymous]I have a demanding career that can result in me being distant physically and emotionally. The last few months were particularly bad. After realizing the effect this was having, I have been purposely focusing on my spouse and our home life. My home life has improved greatly.

During this rough stretch, my spouse’s friendship with an opposite sex friend, also married, evolved to where they expressed to each other levels of attraction. For legitimate professional reasons, they work and will continue to work closely together. They also spend time together socially during the work day and in group settings immediately after. The friend’s marriage sounds irreparable.

I was aware of the friendship and, before confronting my spouse, suspected something more than only an emotional affair. After a belated discussion of our marriage, my spouse informed me of the shared feelings; after my refocusing on my spouse and family, my spouse tells me with confidence that the feelings/attraction  for the friend are no more; however, their friendship remains special. I have no doubt that the friend’s attraction remains and will likely grow. I also believe my spouse.

The spouse refuses to inform the friend that the previously communicated attraction is gone but had communicated (as was represented to me) that our marriage had rebounded. I am not in a position to confirm independently any aspect of the relationship between my spouse and the friend.

I will not tell my spouse to stop socializing with the friend. But I stuck in constant trepidation as to what is happening/being said between them.

Any advice?
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