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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It works if there is some commitment to the relationship.  If your husband is only doing it to appease you on the way out the door, it's not going to work.[/quote]

Correct. If one person is going to “check the box” and not actually change or practice what the therapist purports, it is a big waste of time and money. Same waste if one is doing it to “not look like the bad guy” or “look we tired it!”

Furthermore, and not sure what type of person OPs spouse is, but some show up lying and lying. Ask a critical question and you get lies or “I forget” or “I don’t know”. After about 10 “I don’t knows” and hour you all can tell it will go nowhere with this individual.

I’d try to talk and use a mediator and find out THe REAL ISSUE. It could be one persons depression or an affair, or unrealistic expectations if married (and no friends to talk e to discover everyone has hectic times!), financial, etc.

Don’t just sit and nod - ask him WHY he wants it needs a divorce? Has he even thought through what Co parenting involves? Is he copping out and merely saying something weak and generic like “we have different personalities” duh, everyone does, you learn to communicate well and work as a team. Any family goals set ever?

I’d fight this until I knew the truth. [/quote]

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