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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is your MIL and my MIL is your mother. If you are like me you just wish they never communicated at all after a polite hello at the wedding!
I stopped running interference for my mom years ago. I don’t tell my MIL that my mom can’t stand her and only tolerates conversations with her because she feels obligated and also because she LOVES hearing family gossip from MIL side of the family. MIL is totally oblivious though. I don’t think she realizes in all the years my mom has never extended an invite to her, doesn’t send her anything, etc.

I would refer your mom to speak directly with your MIL when she has questions about her. Let MIL be the one to either decline the dinner invite or politely sit through dinner.
“I’m not sure, you should ask Linda about it.”
“I really don’t know why Linda doesn’t want to get together with you when she is in town. You would have to ask her about it.”
Eventually she will learn that you will not be the go between on this. She will either stop being so friendly with MIL or continue as is and stop worrying about MIL lack of reciprocity or worst case, she will keep whining why to you and maybe you can choose to be forward and blunt at that time but really I am not sure it is your place to speak on behalf of your MIL. MIL needs to grow up and manage it.[/quote]

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