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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m having a hard time dealing with my MIL fomo.

It started a few years ago when we were trying to strengthen our relationship. We (me, usually the kids) were doing things like meeting for lunch, coffee, a mall run, etc. I’d mention things like, “We (me and young kids) met my parents for coffee yesterday” or “I’m having dinner with my parents tonight”. I quickly realized she couldn’t handle this knowledge, so I stopped telling her what I did with my parents (or anything else that would spark jealousy). But as the kids got older, they want to proudly tell both sets of grandparents what they do with the other. My parents can handle it, MIL can’t.

It’s worse now, because MIL moved a ways away a few years ago. While she still gets quantity visits, sadly, they aren’t frequent. My parents are still close, and do pop in for more frequent—albeit shorter—visits. Like today, I’m meeting them after school pickup for an ice cream /coffee with the kids. 30-45 minutes tops. We may have dinner over the weekend, a couple hours tops.

MIL, however, typically takes the kids for long overnights 1-2 times a month. Basically from the time school gets out Friday until late Saturday, or sometimes all day Saturday and home before bedtime Sunday. So like 30 hours.

But she just has this fomo and constantly complains to DH about how often my parents get to see our kids (which is true, but they live closer!) I don’t know how to handle it. She always subtly digs at me about it when we are together, such as asking the kids if they saw my parents this week, then looking at me and saying, “Oh that’s nice.” but with a look that could kill. I don’t dare utter mention of my parents (and I vague answer when she asks), but she always gets it out of the kids, or assumes in her head. DH has explained a million times that they are closer so it’s easier for them to pop in, and that they don’t do long visits with my folks. It doesn’t help. [b]Will anything help?[/b][/quote]

No, she just enjoys playing the role of the saintly, neglected grandma. If only her meanie DIL and DIL's greedy parents weren't so difficult.

I'd ignore and let husband run interference when he needs/wants to.[/quote]

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