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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't. You are telling yourself it's for her but it's not. It's for your love story with the new gf. You aren't bad. You are blinded by hormones.  Just don't. And since you will probably ignore everyone, just don't do it in any way related to Christmas. Don't allow that association. Choose a non-descript day in February.
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This.  It's bad and inappropriate for a child to experience so much change in the space of 8 months.  Meeting a new partner is a BIG deal to a child.  It's an extremely stressful thing to put them through, even if the adults try to downplay it, and at 7 years old she will see right through your "friend" fakery.  She may try to tell you what you want to hear, because she's afraid for her relationship with you.  And you'll probably be tempted to believe her because it's what you want to hear.  But this isn't a good thing to put her through.

You need to find your footing as a single parent and settle into a new normal before you up-end her little life again.  She doesn't love this person and it does not benefit her in any way to be forced to play Instant Family.  God only knows what kind of stress she's being forced to undergo on her mother's side.  Be the stable parent and don't be selfish.  This meeting would benefit the adults but not the child and that is wrong.

Why don't you at least give it a few more months to make sure this relationship is going to last.  [/quote]

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