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[quote=Anonymous]Just curious - how and when in the dating process do you bring up your physical limitations?  Is your disability apparent when meeting people for the first time, or are aspects of it a bit “hidden”?

I agree w/ other PPs - any guy who would be frustrated w/ you for not being able to go dancing (especially if he asked about that after you explained about skating) and any guy who is angry about parking fees is a loser.  Maybe look at your disability a bit like a superpower to weed out the duds quickly?

Also, IMO, I think you need to re-frame a bit when/how you participate or say no - you may not be able to skate, but you can still hold down a hot chocolate/mulled wine table and be the pucture taker for the group.  Skating outside in Georgetown is perfect for this.

Sometimes when you have a disability it helps, instead of saying no, to say, “I can’t do that but I can do this.”  I know it’s a bit exhausting to always have that extra burden of figuring out how to fit in, but unfortunately most people won’t understand the parameters of your ability/disability and in real life it is mostly on you to make the suggestions of how you can participate and on the non-disabled people to accept that graciously (which clearly your dates are failing at.)[/quote]

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