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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is he sad or upset about it?  If he's not then leave it alone for now and just monitor the situation.  Sometimes, as parents we upset our children more than the situation itself.  To me, it really says something that he didn't mention it because he didn't want to upset you not that he was upset.  For now, he's found a workable solution.

Although I do find it odd that the school allows this.  At our my dd's middle school, they are assigned tables to sit at just so no one feels left out and they can rotate as the year progresses.

At the next teacher conference or the next time you speak to the guidance counselor, mention it and see what the policy is.  But in reality, my dd has some friends that would probably love to spend lunchtime in the library because it is quiet and away from all the drama.  My dd loves being in the middle of it all but some students are just more reserved and need that calmness in the midst of their day.

Just be supportive and don't act like it's the end of the world, try to monitor the situation as the school year progresses.  Encourage him to get to know others outside of school and in school clubs and in the neighborhood.[/quote]

+1.  My stepson was like this in high school and it bothered me more than him.  While I think he would have preferred to be at a table with classmates, because that was what seemed "normal", he was also okay with not being at the table.

But if your DS *is* sad/upset about it, I like the advice about speaking to the counselor.  He's most likely not the only one and he/she may be able to strategically work it out with some others.

It is hard to break into these groups.  My DS went to a MS where he was one of just a few from his ES (the vast majority of his ES was zoned for a different MS) and it was quite centered on established groups.  But I think it is harder for us as moms to hear about these things.  Sometimes I wish I could go back to what I thought were problems -- sleeping through the night, toilet training.  This stuff is harder![/quote]

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