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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was also on the DE track (same age as you, DOR but with worse stats) and here's how I wrapped my head around it:
- I thought of all of the people I truly love, but who I share no genetic connection to (and also all of the people who I'm ambivalent about but do share a genetic connection to)
- I thought about what matters most to me when I think about passing things on to the next generation.  I'm extremely close to my parents and grandparents (all genetically related), but what I value most about them is not a shared eye color, nose, height, whatever, but our values and culture.  Things that can be passed on to any child you raise.
- families come in so many styles today.  I have family members who have used donors because they're in single sex relationships.  Family members who adopted, who are single moms by choice.  I live in a big city where no kid really is the odd one out because they're surrounded by kids in all sorts of family arrangements.  Knowing I wasn't burdening my kid with a social stigma (if people even knew about the DE) helped.

The decision to do DE was relatively easy for me.  We'd had multiple losses and I was really really ready to have a child through whatever means would be physically, logistically, and financially easiest (i.e. not a thousand rounds of IVF, not a drawn out adoption process, etc).  I loved the fact that I'd still get to carry the baby.  I loved the fact that I could potentially carry 100% genetic siblings for the baby.   I get the hypocrisy of my first 2 points in downplaying genetics but then wanting a genetic sibling for my DE, but that's where my head was.

In the end, I conceived "naturally" while on lupron during my mock/prep cycle for a DE and now have a 2 year old.  Then, 17 weeks ago I got pregnant on a random IUI cycle that DH and I tried on a whim (we were contentedly one and done after what we'd been through but figured "why not" since insurance covered it).  I'm 36, I have an AFC of 1-2, high FSH and undetectable AMH.  I've posted a lot about my various experiences on here, and I know my situation is extraordinary and atypical and lucky, but it is worth repeating that you just never know with DOR.  [/quote]

Thank you for sharing-- this is so helpful and I'm so happy for you and your story!! May I ask if you did clomid, letrozole or injectibles for the IUI cycle and how many follicles you had when triggering?[/quote]

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