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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be welcoming and nice, why is anything else needed at this point? You say she is nice, why try to create issues before hand? Only thing to say is, we tell each other when we go somewhere, ask if you can go somewhere, etc.. Treat her like your own kids, but not exactly as yours are young. treat her as a young adult. I mean, is she moving because she is a major problem child? Are you an option before wilderness camp? Can you both just be nice?[/quote]

You automatically assume that we're not nice? She wants to move in with us, of course we're nice! Rules and expectations are needed because she's a teenager and right now her weekends with us consist of staying up at all hours of the night on her phone, eating whatever she pleases, and only showering when she feels like it. She's not a major problem child and I'd like to keep it that way. I'm not asking for prison rules here, just advice on how to effectively parent a teenager full time considering my current learning curve is mastering potty training. [/quote]

From what you mention I do think you may have unrealistic expectations on what sort of rules teens should have. I personally would not have rules about showering or bedtime with a 16 year old, a junior. Conversations about getting enough sleep and caring for her body? Sure. But don’t try to make rules about her body, clothes, sleep. I think rules can be around consideration for others in the house - quiet after little kids in bed, home by whatever time, safe driving, contribute to the work of the house. Beyond that try just to enjoy each other.[/quote]

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