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[quote=Anonymous]My mother has spent her entire life commenting on my weight.  Mind you, as a child and a teenager I was MAYBE a size 4.  So not obese.  By college, I was a size 0 with mostly very bad eating habits.  My mother's idea of dieting was not eating anything at all.  Read that as not sustainable.  So I would lose 10-15 lbs and gain 20 back.  After I had my child I had terrible PPD and gained 70 lbs.  She and everyone around me was constantly telling me "how I would be so pretty if I just lost the weight" and "they were just concerned for my health" etc.  All that did was piss me off.

I finally had enough about a year and a half ago and really changed my habits.  I lost the 70 lbs.   I am in the best shape of my life.  I work out and eat healthily.  Guess what,  every time I have a cookie or a beer my mother is right there commenting on literally everything I put in my mouth.  I realize that this is her issue and not mine (she is overweight and has been her whole life).  But damn it is annoying as hell.

What you can do for your spouse.  Stop placating him.  If he expresses a will to do something about his weight be very realistic and straight with him.  Tell him "you tried this before and it didn't work.  time to try a new approach.  Therapy, gastric bypass, whatever it takes."  But ultimately realize that NOTHING, I repeat NOTHING you say or do will motivate him.  He is the one that needs to come to terms with his weight.  Accept the fact that he may never come to terms with it.  I seriously doubt there is a single American that doesn't understand that food choices and lack of movement results in obesity.  [/quote]

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