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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you are getting frustrated that he doesn’t care about “your” stuff and are phrasing that as “not intellectually stimulating” you, when the actual problem is that NEITHER of you cares about the other one’s interests and the result is that you have nothing to talk about together.  So invent some common interests—start going to the movies together, take up a hobby like board games or hiking, etc.

You should also be able to spend at least a little time each day listening to one another.  My DH has a job I find boring, but I am still interested in how the job affects him.  Whether he feels accomplished or overwhelmed or annoyed or challenged is all of interest to me and we have good chats about the politics of his office, what his goals are with different aspects of his career, etc.  My DH has a hobby I don’t care about but I have learned to appreciate (he is a workout junkie) and I listen to his plans for trying a new routine and celebrate with him when he acheives a goal and encourage him when he fails.  I might not care about the new kind of pushup he plans to try, but I am excited with him about it.

And he does the same for me.  He laughs along to stories about my crazy coworker and and offers advice and encouragement when I want to improve my skills at work and listens to my plans for an elaborate Halloween costume and my latest audiobook.  He cares about me and he’s happy to listen to me be happy and happy to support me when I am unhappy.[/quote]

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