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[quote=Anonymous]DH’s grandparents are divorced, remarried and all still alive, and MIL remarried and her new husband has his own children and parents. Because they each have their own subsequent families, getting together for the holidays is a disaster. Nobody can manage to get together on one day in DH family, so it turns into this charade of seeing MIL and her husband one day, seeing one set of grandparents another day, and the other anothe day—and MIL aid course comes to each of those celebrations. So it’s essentially 3 days of celebrating with his side of the family before we even take my family into account and I’m sick of it. It’s not fair. We see his family for hours and days. To make matters worse, my mom and MIL don’t get along because of a verbal attack my MIL ahead towards my mom, that strangely my MIL never got over, so one huge celebration is out of the picture.

I want to take back Christmas. I want to pick a day, and if someone can’t make it, we will try again next year. My DH is being a bit of a coward about it and while he’s unhappy with this arrangement too, he’s afraid to speak up.

What words can I use to give him the courage to make this change this year. And if he isn’t willing, what is my best course of action to duck out this year? [/quote]

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