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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I try to maintain contact until the relationship circles back around. It usually does. If I have the patience. I've even had great friends from the past become close friends again decades later, when we have more in common (I guess more in common. who knows? that's what's hard .. you don't usually know the whys) Op, I find all the time I have to fight my own tendency for impatience with people and their schedules, and the tendency to get my feelings hurt - which instead would lead me to enforce an all-or-nothing relationship (my way or nothing). So, In order keep up the contact I have to be very in tune with the right amount of contact - which equals - the right amount of contact before I become resentful (cause I'm initiating), and to feel empowered I schedule it. It's on the calendar. Example, the next time I'm going to contact Friend A is on January 23rd. If they contact me before then, then I might change my efforts to every month rather than every two months. But right now I seem to be the only one initiating, so every two months, for now, is all I can do w/out having my feelings hurt. With friend B it might be 2x/yr. Good friends, I'm currently in sync with, once a weekish (and don't need to think-through that)[/quote]

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