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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our DD's female schoolmates have been obsessed with these dolls since last spring.  Our daughter has never been especially interested in them (she's more a stuffed animal person), but her friends' behavior around the dolls has [b]deeply upset her many times since the craze began and seems to be impacting her self esteem[/b]. Several of our daughter's classmates have 30 or more of them (including multiples).  The girls bring the dolls everywhere, and they can be quite disruptive.  Our daughter was recently at a movie with a group of classmates, and she complained that she missed a large portion of the film because several kids were getting up from their seats and acting out LOL doll drama (which they usually do in baby voices).  A group of girls was also regularly bringing the dolls to an afterschool class (where they were supposed to be learning but instead were distracted by the dolls).

The dolls are sometimes used as a measure of popularity ("people like Susie because she has lots of LOL dolls") and exclusiveness ("you can't play with us because you don't have one").  They are also an incentive to hang out with someone ("I'm going for a sleepover at Emma's, and she promised to give me one of her LOL dolls").

Has anyone else had issues with these dolls?  Most other parents I have spoken with them don't see the harm in them and have gone out of their way to feed the craze.  We keep telling our daughter that the girls will move on soon enough (they are in 3rd grade) and that friends should be valued for something other than the number of dolls they have.  I have also tried organizing more activities with boys or with the few girls in her class who aren't into the dolls.  Beyond that, I'm not sure what else we can do.  Any suggestions? 
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My DD is 9 in 4th grade and no, we have never had issues with these dolls. LOL dolls do not seem to be a hit with 4th graders, so your DD's friends will probably be past them soon. DD has seen many such crazes at school and beyond--shopkins, slime, fidget spinners, hatchimals, squishies, American Girl, rainbow looms, etc. Even when she doesn't find the crazes interesting, she has never been upset by them and has been fine about doing her own thing. Also, even the most Shopkins-obsessed girl my DD knew in kindergarten had no problem playing other things when invited over for a playdate when my DD had no interest in Shopkins and suggested they play something else.

I would continue to work with your DD on her confidence and resilience, and remind her that it's okay if people have different interests. I personally don't think you should avoid girls who like LOL dolls when arranging playdates. I'm sure many of them are very lovely and flexible and would be happy to play with other toys if your DD can build the confidence to suggest other activities. After the LOL dolls, there will be some New Awesome Thing that all the kids are obsessed with, and she will have to be able to navigate that world too. Good luck![/quote]

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