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[quote=Anonymous]Our kids (twins--12 and a 3rd child---almost 9) were conceived by IVF.   We were in our early 30s at the time of conception and had a combination of issues that resulted in us not conceiving (low sperm count, relatively crummy eggs, etc).  Tried naturally 18+ months each time and ended up doing IVF which worked each time. 
We did not use donor anything.  They're our own DNA and they're completely healthy and have been since birth.  Many of their friends (here in DC) are also IVF conceptions (I know because the moms are my good friends, not because the kids know).

So given that background, when would you tell the kids?  There's never been a need to tell them so far. (The 12 year olds know about the role of sex in conceiving babies and the almost-9 year old has some very basic knowledge as well but that's about it). 
I'm not sure if we should bring it up now (tween/pre-tween), later in teenage-hood, once they're young adults or married or never.   I have no idea if they'll care now or later or ever.  
We're the only ones in our extended families who had any issues conceiving so it's not a generational issue.

Thoughts, especially from anyone who has been there?
Thx!
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