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[quote=Anonymous]DH has a female colleague who joined the staff a few months ago. He works closely with her and they've taken a handful of trips together (with a few others on staff). When they first met he talked about her quite a bit. They apparently have a lot in common- enjoy the same sports, restaurants, went to college in the same town, things like that. I suggested that we get together with her and her husband. We were on the verge of planning something but travel schedules got in the way.

Anyway, a few weeks ago I was looking over his shoulder while he was scrolling through photos on his phone and I came upon a picture of the two of them sitting together with drinks in a hotel lobby. She's very pretty, I must say. They looked chummy and I let him know what I thought of the photo. He brushed it off and said the picture was just a one-off after a long day.

I'm starting to wonder if DH has feelings for this woman. We've been married for 20 years, she's been married for 10. If he does have feelings for her, and if she has feelings for him, I'm wondering if it would indeed be helpful for us to all finally meet. I can meet her and she will understand that I am a real person who doesn't want to lose her husband, and he can meet her husband and see he is a real person as well. In fact, we may all end up becoming good friends.

For those who have dealt with a similar situation, does this work when it comes to stopping an affair from moving forward? I know DH is a flirt. He knows he's a flirt. I know I can't stop him from doing anything and he's certainly not going to stop working with her.  And I'm not the kind of wife who would demand he find a new job, either. My instincts just tell me something could be up but I'd like him-- and if necessary-- her, to rein it in. 
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