Reply to I just looked it my daughter's social media accounts...

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "I just looked it my daughter's social media accounts... "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]And... whoa.  First, let me start by saying that I have ALWAYS told her that I have the option of checking in on her social media accounts. She is 14 years old and we have talked about the importance of parents knowing what and who their kids are communicating with online.  I have access to her devices and accounts, passwords, usernames, etc.  Well, I guess she assumed I wouldn't check her snapchat and.... well... I did.  I could barely use the app because I don't have a snapchat and I think a lot of kids assume that will be the case for their parents.  FYI... if you ever decide to look at your kid's snapchat app, go under settings first and turn off the setting that says to delete all messages after they are read.  I changed it to 24 hours, which was the only other option and let me tell you, the flood gates opened.

I have no problem speaking with her about what I read, primarily because we have had the open discussion that I can see her messages anytime I want.  But. Oh my goodness.  I read several messages that were shocking.  She talks with her friends about how she doesn't want to be a virgin anymore, is ready to have sex anytime, anywhere... even in school.  She even has the location picked out, (thanks to advice from another snapchat exchange). She talked about how boys are approaching her asking if she wants to have sex and how she'd planning to do it soon.  I should point out that the word they're using is NOT "sex" but, rather, the F word.  Her messages are quite explicit... saying that she's ready for some "d---" and she's "just tryin' to 'F'" and how she knows they just want some good "pu---."  AND THESE ARE THE MESSAGES THAT HAVEN'T BEEN DELETED!!!

I also learned that she has another social media account that I didn't know about.  There wasn't anything too revealing on that one, but there were plenty of deleted messages. Red flag.

Now, what do I do?  I know that sounds like a stupid question, but.... how do I deal with this now?  A part of me wishes I had never read the messages, but now that I have, what do I do????  Do I take her phone? Do I have her delete her social media accounts?  Does she need to get punished?   We CLEARLY need to have a discussion, but please give me some guidance on what to say, what NOT to say, what to do, what NOT to do.

I consider myself to have sound judgment, but I'm stumped on this one, to say the least. I have a knot in my stomach bigger than ever and I need support.  And please, no ugly mom-bashing comments, but constructive criticism and guidance is welcome.

Thank you in advance.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics