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[quote=Anonymous]Np here. Maybe this would be an interesting thread for people to continue.

I wanted to add notes about the marriages I worry about. I’m close to their marriages and I could see them working out for 50+ years or divorcing next year:
-one man has had embarrassing issues with porn. Not that he watches it only, but that it came to light in an embarrassing way. The concern there is that there could or couldn’t be relationship issues either caused by the fallout, or fundamentally related. 
-one man and woman seem to not get along without MIL. Or they don’t think they can. I *think* they can but they just believe that the mother is necessary to maintain peace. They could go either way depending on attitudes, fair or unfair fighting, and just realizing that they individually are difficult sometimes...and what?? Do they think some new person is going to accept their quirks any better? They need to work at it for each other.
-one woman has a picky, control, take-charge rose in the family. Pushes boundaries, wants things to look just right. Her dh just goes with the flow, but for how long? And her boundary pushing makes everyone worry 
-one I worry about: the man has so much independence. The wife is supportive of it. And he supports her doing independent stuff too. They do stuff together too, but I worry that the particular independence isn’t healthy. (If it we’re healthy, I wouldnt worry.) He seems to get more of it including missing out on family time / vacation...to do what? Guys just get in trouble with too much freedom. (I say too much. Please don’t knock me, because I didn’t say that it’s a normal amount of freedom).
-another man:,Also he says dumb things like complimenting other women, and seems to be concerned with wife’s weight gain. I mean, that’s sometimes just life for women. It’s not that we WANT to carry around a little excess weight. Genes, aging, stress of kids. Accept it buddy, because the last is trying, and she’s not going to be a size 2 on your timetable. I see plenty of people enjoying life, at resorts, having relationships with overweight. Don’t make her feel like an exception.
-one more: this dh and wife have mystery issues. Everything is a mystery with them, but I know there are problems. I’m glad he told me, but they hide it WELL. I think kids stress them out so much, and there are l sad pasts that affect both of them. I am rooting for them because they’re so cute and I love them both. [/quote]

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