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[quote=Anonymous]I'm trying to see what's reasonable here. Divorced parents. Kid in early elementary. XH does things like taking DS out of school when he wants, for any lame travel arrangement, among other things. Another is that he'll notify me after the fact the our DS is traveling somewhere. For instance, I'll get a text at 6 that says: BTW, our son is with my (out of town) parents, and they're 2 hours away tonight.  This latter thing is done on his time, so I didn't feel I had a right to complain, I did however feel that I should have been notified before DS was taken out of DC, not after.

He also doesn't let me know where DS is staying. I don't have to ask why, he makes a point of saying that he won't notify me because he doesn't want to let me know where HE (my ex) is staying, as if I care. But it's part of a game he plays that I won't get into here. Our parenting agreement explicitly states that we're both to notify 30 days in advance of travel and share DS's itinerary. He breaks that. I know that I cannot do anything if DS is in the middle of the country. BUT, it calms me to know his flight landed on time, or that he's staying in X part of town, if I hear that Y had an issue. OTOH, when I'm traveling, if I miss sharing any info, I get threatening texts that I'm "kidnapping DS" or "alienating him" or that I'm "breaking" some imaginative part of our agreement. SO, he [b]knows [/b] to share the info, he just chooses not to. But he'll make sure to let me know I'm supposed to share it. THAT is besides the point, however.

As a parent, what info do you expect from your child's other parent? What info is vital, what's nice to have, and what's unnecessary? I'd like to do a survey of others and see what's most common. TIA.[/quote]

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