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[quote=Anonymous]I've struggled with trust issues after a betrayal by my husband early in our marriage, and several threats of him to divorce me which happen earlier in our marriage.....

WE have a baby.  I make a lot of money in my job now (I had a sudden turn of fortune that I am making 4X what I did a few years ago, but have no savings) and have taken out a life insurance policy for the baby/husband, and have made them beneficiaries on my bank accounts.

However, DH is older than me and has a lot more accumulated money, but still has his relatives as his beneficiary, and despite my raising concern over the years of why am I (and now our baby) not the beneficiaries, he does nothing.

I feel like this is lopsided - that if something were to happen to me, he'd be fine because he has millions saved and an insurance policy from me.  Whereaes, if something happened to him, I don't have more saved than to meet my financial needs for 6 months, and he does not have an insurance policy on himself.

He says he is busy -forgets - but the fact that he hasn't done anything is making me increasingly anxious.  It feels like a betrayal to me to be "cut out" effectively -- and sometimes the anxiety keeps me up at night......

I'm really not sure what to do it is getting int he way of my feeling secure int he relationship.  Before, when he was threatening divorce, I thought he just wasn't adding me because he was planning on leaving... but now that he says he is happy /etc and wants to be with me, he still is doing nothing....

Any thoughts/advice?[/quote]

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